We spend too much of our time regretting the past or worrying about the future.
The key to
We all know that, sometimes, the transfer of past learning to current situations can be expedient and appropriate. Experience is a valuable teacher and applying it to a current problem can be a useful tool. As for looking forward, predicting and speculating about the future and anticipating results are often important elements of decision-making.
At the same time, living in the past can be ineffective and even dangerous, and speculating the future can be folly. Whether we focus upon the past or the future, it is important to remember that nothing is static — everything is in flux.
The Story
The Zen proverb of The Monk on the Rope illustrates the challenge of seizing the present. A
The Monk is in a quandary as he contemplates going back up the rope – to the past. He experiences regret and feels anger at himself for beginning this journey. When pondering the prospect of climbing down the rope – to the future – he worries and is fearful that he will meet certain death. The Zen learning is to eat the fruit of the present and not to be distracted by the past or the future.
The Gnawing Mouse of the Past
Past conditions are never exactly the same as today’s. Thoughts and emotions are the results of past thinking and feeling that never duplicate current circumstances.
A different nuance could be critical to an effective interpretation. Past learning and assumptions brought forward to the present can seduce us into prejudicing the fresh situation. As a result, our options are reduced and new approaches are tainted, blinding us to creative responses. Regret and anger are feelings often associated with the past that can quickly land us in the “red zone” of counter-productive behaviors.
On the other hand, suspending, focusing on the present and acting on a fresh situational assessment leading to deliberate action moves us into the “green zone” of productive behaviors.
The Fearsome Lion of the Future
The future is fraught with uncertainty and ambiguity. Projecting, predicting and planning activities make sense in anticipating the future. However, the downside of future-focusing (or obsessing) are the emotions of worry and fear with accompanying behaviors of indecision and
Healing Occurs in the Present
When we begin to sense fear or anger it can be helpful to follow the feeling upstream to the
Among the many things Dr. Balfour Mount, a Montreal palliative care practitioner of more than 30 years, has learned from his patients is living in the present. “One of our problems is that we’re stuck in the past or the future. Healing occurs in the present moment, where we almost never are.”
Staying in the present can be enhanced through the discipline of meditation, although there are other ways of being in the present without the distracting noise of thoughts and feelings of the past and future.
Effective dialogue depends on staying in the present. Central to the practices of respecting, voicing, suspending and listening is attending to the present.
Living in the moment allows us to establish proportion. So often our lives are fragmented as we juggle personal and professional activities.
The following essay captures the value of being in “the moment.”
I’d Pick More Daisies
If I had my life to live over,
I’d try to make more mistakes next time.
I would relax. I would limber up.
I would be sillier than I have been on this trip.
I would be crazier.
I would be less hygienic.
I would take more chances.
I would take more trips.
I would climb more mountains,
swim more rivers, watch more sunsets.
I would eat more ice cream and less beans.
I would have more real troubles
and fewer imaginary ones.
You see, I am one of these people who lives
prophylactically and sensibly and sanely,
hour after hour, day after day.
Oh, I have had my moments and,
if I had it to do over again,
I’d have more of them.
In fact, I’d try to have nothing else—
just moments, one after another,
instead of living so many years ahead each day
(italics added).
I have been one of those people who never
goes anywhere without a thermometer,
a hot water bottle, a gargle, a raincoat and a parachute.
If I had it to do over again,
I would go and do and travel lighter.
If I had my life to live over,
I would start barefooted earlier in the spring
and stay that way until later in the fall.
I would play hokey more.
I would ride on more merry-go-rounds.
I’d pick more daisies.
Adapted from an essay
Living the present means looking at the world as if for the first time. Be aware of everyday common things.
Notice the beauty of nature. Look for the goodness in people.
We must remember to eat the fruit right in front of each of us! Acting on purpose is sweet,
natural, fun and consuming as we complete our lifework. Consuming because as we focus on
“ACTING ON PURPOSE: The Importance of Being In The Present”
is written by Don E. Hall, Ph.D.
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Don Herold (July 9, 1889 – June 1, 1966) was an American humorist, writer, illustrator, and cartoonist who wrote and illustrated many books and was a contributor to national magazines.
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